![Taking the War Out of Our Words](https://socialjusticeresourcecenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Taking-the-War-Out-of-Our-Words.jpg)
By Sharon Ellison. Shows how defensiveness functions and can lead to hurtful power struggles, outlining the six basic patterns: Self-Betrayal, Avoidance , Excuses, Sabotage, Vindictiveness & Blame to express oneself with a blend of vulnerability and honesty. Learn more.